Don’t Stay Stuck

Caged Bird

By Dawn Onley

If a child is bored, she is not creative enough. If an adult feels stuck, she is not creative enough.

Life can be brutal. One thing after another can leave us feeling despondent and lost. There are real life circumstances that overwhelm us, and threaten to take us under by the sheer enormity of it all. By our very nature as nurturers and caregivers, women face these feelings more acutely. We are the ones looking after others first and by the time we get to ourselves, we feel depleted and hopeless.

It’s an awful thing to feel stuck. But it’s just that – a feeling. It is not the totality of our reality, or at least it doesn’t have to be. There’s a lot of hope in this world. Grab you some, and hold onto it for dear life. It will get you through these bleak periods and bring you back to your confident and carefree self soon enough.

If you can’t seem to shake the blues, you should know there are endless possibilities out there waiting for you. Our grandmothers and great-grandmothers had limited options. It was a much different time period. They couldn’t always vote. Certain careers were off limits to them. They didn’t have the educational, financial, informational, and networking resources that we have today. We should not feel stuck. Our elderly relatives would have loved the abundant opportunities that we have, and sometimes take for granted.

Today, life gives us the opportunity to reinvent ourselves. If there is something we don’t like, we can change it. If we wish to learn a new language, switch jobs, take up a new hobby, start an exercise regimen, even move to a new location, it’s within our reach. All we need is a strategy to get un-stuck.

I have a friend who decided after more than a decade as a journalist that she wanted to be a lawyer. So she went to law school, in her mid-thirties, and is now practicing quite successfully in New Jersey. I have friends who packed up and moved across country for better opportunities and a change of environment. Retired for almost a decade after a career in banking, my mother started a non-profit to more directly serve a segment of the population she is passionate about, and to connect her heart with her work.

If you’re feeling stuck, do something about it. Start journaling. Register for a class. Consider your next move. If you don’t, it’s almost certain that things won’t improve.

Don’t wait. Don’t stay stuck. Life is too big for you to play small.

Fly Birdies “You shouldn’t be at the same place now as you were five years ago. If you’re still letting the same things upset you, the same people offend you, the same challenges steal your joy, this is a wake-up call – it’s time for change,” said Joel Osteen.


4 Comments Add yours

  1. Calvin says:

    Dont stay stuck… so very true…


  2. Yvette says:

    Not staying stuck!! What”s your story!! Well here’s mine… for years I ve desired to be a missionary and travel the world caring for people in remote villages with limited resources… God has provided me with the finances and time to persue my desire, however I’ve faced many challenges in doing so , but I have continued to press on and stay focused. I refuse to give up and stay stuck!! And to God be the glory. I will be returning to Haiti in November for one week, were I desire to do my missionary work for a longer extended periods of time… so with all that being said, Thank you for the encouraging read to move forward and not be STUCK!!! My prayer is that I hope my story will encourage other the same way this blog has inspired me to not stay idle this world has many opportunities and resources for whatever it is that we are called to do… Dont ever stop persuing your DREAMS!!! Yvette


    1. womenwhohope says:

      You are amazing, Yvette! I thank God for you. What an inspiring thing to do! I look forward to following your upcoming trip to Haiti and in hearing about your future missions trips. Glad the blog is helping to inspire you, as you are an inspiration to me and many others. Love you!


  3. Joy Renee says:

    I must have been stuck somewhere 10 days ago because I totally missed this blog. Brilliantly worded Dee dee! Reminds me of my bestie Elle’s fav saying – ‘be gentle with yourself’. So what if life throws you a few curve balls. Don’t stay stuck! Amen


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