Find Your Confidants


By Dawn Onley

You can’t share your dream with everyone.

Some won’t understand, and may try to discourage you because of that lack of understanding. Some may even berate your dream because they are not courageous enough to pursue their own dream. In the book “Destiny,” T.D. Jakes cautions readers to seek out people who are safe to share our dreams with. He says if we can find only a few confidants during our lifetime, count it as a blessing.

He then offers up a way we can determine whether a person is a confidant and has our best interest at heart from those who aren’t and don’t.

“If someone is really with you, they will weep when you weep and they will rejoice when you rejoice. If you share some good news with someone and they don’t rejoice with you, stop telling them your business!” Jakes says. “If you walk into a room and tell someone about good things that are happening to you, stop celebrating long enough to watch their reaction. If they are not happy for you, shut your mouth, turn around and walk back out the door. Share your dream with people who want you to succeed.”


Everyone is not happy for your success. Some people won’t be bothered when you’re sad. This is a tough life lesson, but an important one.

Find the ones who are happy for you and sad with you. Find the ones who are safe to share your dream. As you journey through life, it’s important to find your tribe.

2 Comments Add yours

  1. Meg Nugent Dwyer says:

    Dawn, you always manage to offer sage words at the exact time I need to read them. Thank you, my friend.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. womenwhohope says:

      Thank you, my friend.


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