“When you want to attract something into your life, make sure your actions don’t contradict your desires. Think about what you have asked for, and make sure that your actions are mirroring what you expect to receive, and that they’re not contradicting what you’ve asked for. Act as if you are receiving it. Do exactly what you would do if you were receiving it today, and take actions in your life to reflect that powerful expectation. Make room to receive your desires, and as you do, you are sending out that powerful signal of expectation.” – Rhonda Byrne, The Secret

By Dawn Onley

It’s important to move in the direction of your dreams.

If you’ve been dreaming of relocating to a city with summer temperatures year round, it makes no sense to go out and buy a brand new coat and boots for winter time. Keep your old coat and old boots as to not contradict your desire. And then, start taking other small steps to move you closer to your dream.

If you desire financial freedom, what sense does it make to go out and accrue new debt by charging up a credit card on non-essential purchases? And no, that winter coat and those boots are not essential.

If you are always complaining that you never have time to do the things that you enjoy, the last thing you need to do is to further bog down your schedule with more commitments. You need to free up some time on your schedule and then you need to go out and do the things that you enjoy.

Or, if you desire love, watch the language that you put out into the universe, and your corresponding actions, that may contradict your intent. For example, single women, if you desire a committed relationship, you need to stop with all the negative, defeatist talk about how there are no good men left or that all men are dogs because what you’re really doing is voicing what you expect to receive. If you walk in expectancy for a good man, why would you waste your breath or make room in your head for any guy who falls short of those expectations?

Instead, try voicing positive affirmations like: “I’m loving, smart, fun and loyal and there’s a man out there for me who is loving, loyal, committed and fun.”

Talk it into existence. Write it into existence. Make it plain and simple. Expect the blessing to be right around the corner. In fact, act as if it’s already here. Anticipate great things and great things will come. It may not come tomorrow, or the next day. But have faith in the process. I have seen it work firsthand in my life.

This doesn’t mean that all positive thoughts and actions that reaffirm our dreams won’t come with some thorns. This is just life. But when we’re honest and clear and purposeful about what we desire, we have the magnetism and power, just like a snake charmer, to draw it to us.

Give it a try. What do you have to lose?