By Samantha McKenzie

“Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.” – Lao Tzu

Confidence has swag, it has flow, it has grace. It meanders down the street with an extra pep in its step. It makes others stop and stare.

Confidence has sass. It has humility. It is completely contagious and often envied. It makes people stare. It invites others to believe. It’s totally attractive.

So full of good thoughts and well wishes towards itself, confidence laughs in the face of fear. I’ve seen it flip its hair at obstacles. It coined the phrase, “challenges are just opportunities.” It created the “glass is half full” concept. It begs to be desired. It is priceless.

Confidence is one of the most beautiful qualities a person can have. I wish we all grew up in homes where our self-esteem was boosted by rich affirmations and supportive experiences. If only we were told on a daily basis that we were smart, strong, beautiful, courageous and brave or engaged in opportunities that helped us see what we were made of. Wouldn’t it be nice to be reminded of our value? What would it be like if we were handed over our gifts and made to run free in pursuit of our passions? Maybe then we’d all walk into rooms self-assured and ready to fulfill our purpose.

But that’s not the case. For most of us, our confidence comes through our trials and errors. It is the end product of failing and falling and getting back up with a renewed strength. Because confidence is a fighter…and a winner.

Investing more time in reminding ourselves of how great we are is a necessary ingredient to creating a successful life. Take time to make a list of all of your great qualities. Write down all of your successes. Ask your friends and families what they think are your top three accomplishments. You’ll be surprised to hear what they have to say.

Look in the mirror more often and compliment yourself. Send yourself a text with a loving message. Talk to yourself the same way you would talk to someone you love.

Walk proudly in your confidence every day. Show off your swag.