Resistance always takes the form of fear. That’s the overriding thing.” – Steven Pressfield, “The War of Art.”
By Dawn Onley
There has been a lot written over the years about change. It’s hard. It’s good. It’s necessary. It’s disruptive. It’s inevitable. It’s uncomfortable. It’s a process. It signifies growth. It’s the essence of life. It’s terrifying.
We resist change. We embrace change. We surrender to change.
Change exposes our vulnerabilities and fears, in some cases leaving us wide open to judgment, doubt and ridicule – and most of this is self-inflicted. This is how we can become conditioned to stay as miserable as a fish washed up on shore, with all life oozing out –a certain death — over the chance at creating a better life for ourselves.
“Most people will choose unhappiness over uncertainty,” according to Timothy Ferriss, author of The 4-Hour Workweek.
What I’m learning is nothing is ever certain to begin with. People deal with all sorts of curve balls that life throws their way, everyday.
I’m learning to embrace change, to see it as a gift. To welcome the uncertainty.
Consider this: What if clinging to unhappiness for fear of change is keeping you and I from experiencing the greatest freedom and joy we’ve ever known?
What if that bold move puts a chain in motion and leaves us successful beyond our wildest dreams?
What if one day you decide to take a chance on love and I move closer to the realization of my dreams? And what if it all works out?
How do we ever learn what’s beyond the bend if we’re scared of change? How can we see the bright future if we’re hell bent on focusing on the same overcast skies?
Change is needed to grow. A change of scenery. A change of attitude. A change in direction. A change in decision. Change is scary, sure. But nothing is scarier than feeling stuck. What if our unwillingness to change is suffocating our future?
We should choose better for ourselves, starting with the best chance at a great life. And this starts with change.
Leo Buscaglia said “change is the end result of all true learning.”
Amelia Earhart said “the most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity. The fears are paper tigers. You can do anything you decide to do. You can act to change and control your life; and the procedure, the process is its own reward.”
Albert Einstein said “if the facts don’t fit the theory, change the facts.”
President Obama reminded us a decade ago that “we are the change that we seek.”
Imagine this: we hold the power. It’s been within us all this time. It starts with a dream, and then a decision, and then an action. We hold the key.
Are you ready? I am.