Here I Am, World…

Believe in your Dreams

By Dawn Onley

Your highest self is waiting for you. My highest self is awaiting me.

This is not simply a concept or a theory. It’s a truth that is as old as the ages, and it is only unleashed through faith.

At night, we dream big dreams for ourselves, but we have no idea of how big the possibilities are, come day. If we did, we’d act. Right now. We wouldn’t fear. We wouldn’t wait. We wouldn’t brood. We wouldn’t sit at the table when our song plays. We’d get up and dance!

We owe it to ourselves to explore our highest selves; to see what we are fully capable of.

We owe it to each other, too.

“The future is as bright as your faith.” – Thomas S. Monson

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Life Always Works Itself Out


No matter how much time you spend worrying, you are not always in control.

Somewhere in the depths of the deep dark universe, God has already set aside a solution to your problems.


Leave your mind open to the possibilities that everything will work itself out and let the mysteries of life simply unfold.

Be still.

Allow the magic in. 

Watch it all work out.

Filling Up to Finish the Journey


By Dawn Onley

In approximately 10 days, we will be mid-way through this year. Although hard to believe how quickly the time has flown by — the same as every year — the milestone marks as good a time as any to assess where we started in January, where we’re headed in December, and where we are right now.

It’s also a great opportunity to check our momentum gauge to see that it’s still on FULL, and if not, to quickly fill up our engines. Because, it’s too early for us to be on empty. And also because there is too much work to do.

I’m guessing there have been setbacks. You may have hoped to lose 10 pounds by now, but since you are constantly working, it’s so much easier to grab fast food for dinner, right? You planned to brainstorm names for your business but you haven’t had the time. I get it. I completely understand. It’s the same old trap. Before long, it’ll be October and soon after we’ll be singing “Auld Lang Syne.” Unless we push through this line of reasoning and our exhaustion and whatever else stands in the way, we’ll never gain ground. Sure, it takes more preparation and is more time-consuming to do meal planning and to limit foods that work against our goals. Sure, we must sacrifice. Yes, it’s hard work. Yes, it may require an initial financial investment to get started. It’s wise to have an accountability partner. You bet it takes discipline and requires us to be relentless.

So what? We knew it wouldn’t be easy. We’ve thought about this for a long time. We must be committed to the relationship of building our best selves. We must fight to get to this next level. Mediocrity takes little effort. We are striving for greatness. That takes everything we’ve got.

One of the things that stands out the most to me about the Montgomery Bus Boycott, which commenced on Dec. 5, 1955, a few days after Rosa Parks refused to give up her seat to a white man on the bus, was the unwavering commitment that working African-Americans had to effectuate change. We’ve seen the video footage of people walking to work, but did you know that some people even rode mules to work? For one whole year? Do you know how singularly focused on the goal it would take for someone to ride a mule for miles to work each day? The boycott was for equal treatment and civil rights, certainly, but let’s talk about the sacrifice and determination needed to achieve this goal. And some of us have already quit going to the gym or eating healthy or believing that we have what it takes to succeed. We could all stand to learn something from the boycotters.

Any goal worth reaching requires a new level of effort. Think about it. If it took the same level of effort that we are currently putting out, we’d all be there by now. In order to get someplace we’ve never gone, we must do something we’ve never done.


Midway through the year, it’s time to fill up our tanks. We can’t lose our energy. We can’t lose ground. We can’t lose focus. We are so close. We must KEEP PUSHING.

Let’s learn about things that will build up our resistance to quit. Let’s examine a different approach — one that may work better for us. Let’s readjust our attitudes about failing – realizing that failure increases our knowledge of what works and what doesn’t. Let’s understand that “failing” does not mean “failure,” it actually means success because there is no success without failure. Let’s try to fail more often because it means we are in the arena and we are giving it a shot.

Whatever it takes, let’s move that stubborn needle one step further. Just ONE step. Right now. For our best selves, let’s rev up, put the pedal to the metal and take off.


Shatter Your Glass Ceilings

Samantha McKenzie

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The term “glass ceiling” was coined in the late 1970s to describe the invisible barrier that kept minorities and women from moving up the corporate ladder and closing the gender pay gaps.

Each year, a new study is published detailing the evidence and hard facts: women continue to earn less than their male counterparts. The reasons cited ranged from gender bias (intentional or unintentional) to the lack of influence within powerful networks, such as the Good Old Boys Club.

It’s time we address these imbalances in our society. It seems as though we’ve become so numb to receiving less, that we’ve resigned ourselves to accepting the status quo. Image result for quotes on ambition

I believe that glass ceilings were meant to be shattered and the fight begins within. The first step is to adopt a “no-limits” philosophy to your personal success.

We all know that women are powerful. Either you were raised by a woman of fortitude, taught by a woman of force or are a women of strength. We are powerful in our homes, in our neighborhoods, in our organizations and in our places of worship. Why would this power disappear when we enter the board room or a pulpit?

Shatter your own glass ceiling and challenge the stereotypes that hold you back. Shed yourself of those self-defeating thoughts. Leave behind those insecurities and self-doubt. They are the true enemies to our progress and stunt our growth.Image result for quotes on ambition

Instead, become a self-promoter. Speak up during meetings. Share your ideas. Add your input –  even if it may be unpopular. Don’t be afraid to ask for a raise or advocate for a promotion you know you deserve. Put your name in the hat and compete.

Get in the habit of sitting at the table. Sharpen your tools. Show off your confidence. And just slay…

Dialing Back Life’s Noise

“Cherish your solitude. Take trains by yourself to places you have never been. Sleep out alone under the stars. Learn how to drive a stick shift. Go so far away that you stop being afraid of not coming back. Say no when you don’t want to do something. Say yes if your instincts are strong, even if everyone around you disagrees. Decide whether you want to be liked or admired. Decide if fitting in is more important than finding out what you’re doing here. Believe in kissing.” – Eve Ensler


By Dawn Onley

It’s summertime. The kids are in summer camp and you are hoping to eke out some time to get out and enjoy the weather and finally finish up a project you started awhile ago.

And by “you” I mean “me.” Us. Ahem.

To do this, we need to prioritize. We may have to cut back on some things. For me, “some things” means social media. Not that it’s Facebook or Twitter’s fault. I’ll claim full responsibility for the time I’ve spent reading status updates, writing posts, liking pictures, researching groups, clicking links to news articles and devouring those articles.

It’s all extremely time consuming.

Before long, information overload causes my internal hard drive to crash. When this happens, you know what else comes with it?

  • Mood swings
  • Exhaustion
  • Irritability
  • Worry, that I’m wasting too much time online instead of doing


Because of my social media fatigue, I have to take breaks each year to reconnect and reengage with the things that feed my spirit: Books, writing projects, spending time with friends and family, baking, long, early morning walks.

Real stuff.

In the interest of better time management, this summer I will significantly limit my social media time and interactions. I will carve out some time to do more writing.


Because, I’m in need of a reset; a recalibration.

As much as we’ve gained by the Internet, 24/7 connectivity and virtually unlimited access to information – and we’ve gained a lot – I sometimes miss the old days, before call waiting and multiples means of accessing a person. I want more of the family discussions at the dinner table. I want to engage with my community more – in person and fully focused.

I’m looking forward to Dawn time, where I can hone my writing craft each day, by reading, writing, and experiencing more of life. I’m looking forward to dialing back the noise so I can hear my words, my voice.

You’ll still see the Women Who Hope blog posts. I’d encourage you to follow the blog and like our social media pages on Facebook: Women Who Hope and Twitter: @ForWomenWhoHope to stay connected with what we are doing.

If you need to reach me, you’ll still be able to connect with me on my personal social media pages or via email. I’ll still be around but just less so.

Happy Summer! I’m really looking forward to this!

Share Your Smile

By Samantha McKenzie

Share your smile today. Share that wide grin with anyone who’s willing to receive it.

Let it light up our insides and reaffirm the goodness that’s in all of us. Giggle if you have to. It will cost you absolutely nothing.


Be brave and cheese your way through the day. Give a slight nod of acknowledgement to a neighbor who you never speak to. Send a simple smile to the next passerby. Let it make those around you feel alive.

I gave away a lot of smiles today to women in particular. I wanted my sisters to know that I saw them. I wanted them to feel our kindred spirit. I wanted to reassure them that although our feet were moving in opposite directions, that we were all on the same path. I shared my smile more times than I can remember these past few days and I got as many smiles back.

I’m certain that each person I saw was carrying their fair share of burdens. Myself included. By the look in their eyes, I was almost positive that they had some weighty task ahead of them. I chose to smile anyway.

Give away your smiles today. Let it warm the hearts of those around you. It can sometimes be the medicine that someone needs. Allow it to heal those tender souls.

Note: Today marks the 2nd anniversary of the Women Who Hope blog site. We thank each and every reader for your continued support. Thanks for the shares, the likes and the comments. All of it has helped us grow up and outward. Stay tuned for new and exciting opportunities coming your way. We promise to keep writing, to keep inspiring and to keep engaging with other women who hope, just like we do. Here’s to women all over the world and the men who support them. Keep the faith and stay on the journey.



Take the First Step, Today


By Dawn Onley

There is so much emphasis placed on getting to the finish line that what’s forgotten is how intimidating it can be to start.

Taking that first step toward accomplishing a goal takes guts. It is bold. It signals to the universe that we are ready — even though we don’t have a clue yet how it’ll turn out. That’s okay. We will learn. We will figure it out. We need to have faith and trust the process. Trust our Creator. Trust ourselves.

Many of us don’t start because we are scared of failure. As crazy as it sounds, some of us are even scared of success. Neither failure nor success matters as much as trying. When we’re on our death beds, we’re not going to focus on failing or succeeding. We’re going to focus on the woulda, coulda, shouldas, or in other words, what we wish we would have done, what we regret not starting, and what dreams we never realized.


A few years ago, a palliative nurse named Bronnie Ware, who had spent years caring for people within weeks of dying, began recording their last wishes. When she asked them if they would do anything differently, she started to notice some themes emerging. She wrote about the top five themes in her blog called Inspiration and Chai.

The number one regret of those dying was this: “I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.”

It all starts with the decisions we make today.

Start today. Take one small step towards a goal. Make the phone call you’ve been putting off. Create a list of goals. Jot down your first journal entry. Register for a class. Take a stroll around the block at lunchtime. Call a lender and finally get your credit score to see where you stand. Create a strategy for paying down debt. Turn off the TV, pick up a book and start reading. Start an investment account and earmark it for a goal you have. Research your next move.

Try something different. Try a new approach. Start taking steps that will bring you closer to the life of your dreams. Begin today. Tomorrow isn’t promised.

Let’s summon the courage to start a new thing, right now. Let’s make today the perfect day to begin living the life we imagined.